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Appreciating Our Diversity As a Couple

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Wisdom From The World:

“Strength lies in differences, not in similarities.” Stephen R. Covey

“Let’s stop believing that our differences can make us superior or inferior to one another.”

“Share our similarities, celebrate our differences.” M. Scott Peck

“It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept and celebrate those differences.”

“Love means respecting and accepting the parts of each other that you do not, and may never, understand.”

“When asked how they managed to stay together for 65 years the woman said, “It’s like living in California, if you find a fault don’t build on it.”

“Never allow yourself to be defined by someone else’s opinion of you.”

“If you want something you never had, you have to do something you have never done.”

Wisdom Of The Word:

Well-spoken words bring satisfaction;

well-done work has its own reward.

Fools are headstrong and do what they like;

wise people take advice.

Fools have short fuses and explode all too quickly;

the prudent quietly shrug off insults.

Truthful witness by a good person clears the air,

but liars lay down a smoke screen of deceit.

Rash language cuts and maims,

but there is healing in the words of the wise.

Truth lasts;

lies are here today, gone tomorrow.”

Proverbs 12:14-19 (The Message)

In the book of Proverbs Solomon writes a description of a woman’s separateness, throughout her lifetime and how it benefits both her husband and family.

“ A good woman is hard to find,

and worth far more than diamonds.

Her husband trusts her without reserve,

and never has reason to regret it.

Never spiteful, she treats him generously

all her life long.

She shops around for the best yarns and cottons,

and enjoys knitting and sewing.

She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places

and brings back exotic surprises.

She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast

for her family and organizing her day.

She looks over a field and buys it,

then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden.

First thing in the morning, she dresses for work,

rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.

She senses the worth of her work,

is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.

She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth,

diligent in homemaking.

She’s quick to assist anyone in need,

reaches out to help the poor.”

“She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows;

their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear.

She makes her own clothing,

and dresses in colorful linens and silks.

Her husband is greatly respected

when he deliberates with the city fathers.

She designs gowns and sells them,

brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops.

Her clothes are well-made and elegant,

and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.

When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say,

and she always says it kindly.

She keeps an eye on everyone in her household,

and keeps them all busy and productive.

Her children respect and bless her;

her husband joins in with words of praise:

“Many women have done wonderful things,

but you’ve outclassed them all!”

Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.

The woman to be admired and praised

is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God.

Give her everything she deserves!

Festoon her life with praises!”

Proverbs 31:10-31 (The Message)

Keep Me Real Lord!

Dear Lord, help me to manage my anxiety when my partner expresses a thought that I may actually find threatening because it is the exact opposite of what I was thinking. Help me to be curious instead of furious. Help me to really listen so that my partner feels heard and knows that I got his/her perspective. Help me to ponder my mate’s truth and then be free to express my perspective. Help us to celebrate both our similarities and differences. Thank you to the God who delights in diversity!

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