Marriage Moments will include questions and/or exercises to start conversations. They will provide an an opportunity to know yourself and your partner better. Check in with your LifeMate to see if this is a good time for them to answer these questions. If it is not a convenient time schedule a later time that would work for both of you. When you are the listener, show up with an interested and curious attitude. Be careful not to interrupt. After one of you has answered the questions, turn the tables and give the other partner their chance.
- Have you ever fallen into the trap of believing that if you weren’t happy it was the fault of the person you were involved with? If so, tell me how that worked for you.
- If your life is represented by one of the candles of the candle-lighting ceremony often used at a wedding, what makes your individual candle glow? What gives you a sense of fulfillment?
- Are there things that are not now a part of your lifestyle that you want to embrace so that your candle glows? What would these things be?
- Is there any way that our lifestyle needs to change in order for this to happen?